Life Musings

Hi peeps,

It's been a minute, I know I say this all the time but it is what it is guyz, the hustle has been damn so real this period. Anyhoo, today is all about sharing my first hand experience with working from home with our lil one. First all of all, let me just say it wasn't an easy one but hey we are still alive and doing great.

This write-up will be a very short one. This is just me saying that life can throw us in the mud sometimes and we just have to deal with it even when we don't feel like it ❤️

Before I begin,  let me just say I'm so thankful for my support system. I don't think I would have survived this journey without my husband. We have always been working together as a team since we started this marriage and parenting journey which has honestly saved me from a lot of stress. However, during this lockdown, his support system game was on another level. He literarily just wears both the mummy & daddy cap on most days. It's not been easy like I said, if I want to be honest but i'm thankful that amidst all, we are keeping safe and killing it 💪

There are some vital lessons I have learnt during this period that I will love to share with you guyz and as usual,  I will just be sharing my top 5 lessons. So with no further ado, 3,2,1...BINGO, Let's do this💃

1. Life never really prepares us for anything - If anybody had told me that this is how the 1st/2nd quarter of 2020 would be like, I would have sworn that it is not possible, I won't cope, blah blah blah. Hey never say never, anything can happen anytime. Life has continually taught me this and i'm grateful for these lessons. Sometimes, it's really hard to wrap your head around a lot of things and answer all your "whys" but hey you don't have to question everything all the time. Life is a mystery and I doubt if anyone can be 100% prepared for what to expect or has a dictionary on how to deal with life. It is truly a mystery and we just have to live one day at a time while we deal with so many unknowns.

2. Perseverance/Patience - Working from home and babysitting a 2 year old who barely understands what is going on has taught me a lot about patience and perseverance. On some days, she is extremely bored and tired of her toys & routine while I may also be very tired. In situations like this, all she wants to do is go to the park or just take a stroll. Of course, she wins all the time and no matter how tired I am, I still have to wear my mummy cap and take her out. This is just one of the several lessons I have learnt this period. I have learnt to be patient with her and even though she can be a handful on some days, I have also learnt that kids have mood swings and they cannot always be sweet and that's totally fine too.

3. Breaking our routine rules: We have always had a routine for our daughter from birth especially when it comes to her bedtime but this period, I have had to relax on some of my strict rules and let her sleep anytime she wants to. She is mostly active at night just like her dad. My daughter can stay awake till 11pm if I leave her. To be honest, I have left her to sleep late on some days while on some days, I wear my strict mummy cap and insist she goes to bed on time. The lesson I learnt from this is that it cannot always be #MyRulesMyWay

4. Learning her native language: Myself and my husband really want our kid(s) to understand our native language which is Yoruba. Of course, we don't expect them to be perfect but when people from our tribe greet them, talk to them or even when they speak to their grandparents on the phone, we want them to be able to communicate and say some sentences, which is our main goal. We mostly speak Yoruba to her at home however during this period, we noticed that there has been a lot of improvements. That alone is a win for us and i'm so proud of us for this little win. One lesson I learnt from this is consistency, we only speak our language to her at home and mix it with English sometimes. Even though we have not been consistent, we have definitely seen a lot of improvement and let me just say i'm so proud of us for this😍. Fingers crossed that we continue with this beyond this #WFH period🤞

5. Finally, I have learnt that Mummy guilt is real: Being a mum has opened my eyes to a lot of lessons. I am that kind of mum that will surf the internet on milestones, what my daughter should be eating, what kind of words she should be saying and lots more. However during this COVID-19 period, it's been so difficult to keep up with all the things I normally do. Some nights I sleep extremely sad and guilty. I always say to myself that "Wemimo, you have really relented oo". Some nights, mummy guilt eat me up to my bones but i'm also a big fan of "taking one day at a time". So on those gloomy days, when i'm feeling like a failed mummy, I just take a nap, take a deep breathe and tell myself "you are not expected to be a perfect mum, don't be too hard on yourself Mama bear". 

It's been a journey these past 4 months and I must say it's been tough, interesting, overwhelming and also sweet. In short, a bitter-sweet experience for me. One of the plus for me is having my partner by my side everyday. I don't think we have spent so much time together since we got married. Even though he is mostly busy and we only get to talk after a long day. The fact that I can go into his office anytime and distract him or force him out of work (which he hates so much but hey, na the work I dey do😂) has been one of my favourites things to do.

Things are beginning to loosen up a bit here in Calgary although most events and activities have been cancelled this summer, which is sad but I'm definitely looking forward to getting back to a normal system where there will be no fear of the unknown. 

That will be all for me today and from my COVID-19 Chronicles (you can check out other chronicles here and here). I just want to say a big thank you for stopping by in my little corner. I hope you are keeping safe wherever you are. Myself and my baby girl are sending smiles your way on this beautiful sunny day to complete your day❤️ & Until next time...💋